A large part of the sufferings that we have in the soul, is because of what we say to ourselves from that tower with which we have been protecting ourselves against the apparently hostile world that surrounds us. It is what we mistakenly believed us to be, where we feel less, where the whole world is against us, where we believe, perhaps that we are not worthy of God’s love. Where we put limits and barriers to love and being able to trust others.
However, in the end no matter what you have used to build your dwelling, or what the circumstances of each element have been, the important thing here is to become aware that the place you built is not the place that God designed for you. That is the place that your little god, limited and scared has built to survive in this dimension.
In other words, this construction is made by you and your circumstances, and you created it from your limited being, by the terror of reliving the same thing, to make you invisible, to protect you, to elevate yourself, to prove something, by the fear of not “being”, to have a “safe” place in which no one can harm you, which is the biggest lie that exists.
These constructions first create separation and individuality, but you were created by God and came out of his heart to live in union with him, not in separation. You are part of a body in which we depend on each other. Later we will enter the dying to the “I” to live in the we.
As long as you live your life from that abode, from that construction, every step you take, every decision you make, you will make it from your “state of consequence.”
Everything you have lived through to this day is going to have an impact on your future life. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that no matter what you’ve had to go through, once you return to oneness with God, and He becomes your dwelling place, then He begins to use all those circumstances for you to help others; They cease to be barriers and blockages in your life, and become living epistles capable of bringing out of captivity those who lived the same as you.
So be at peace, however you came to your marriage, just like your partner, know that that spiritual abode that you built, if you choose, is going to be destroyed, so that you can begin to live in an unlimited abode filled with the love of God.
To get there, we must leave behind the state of consequence and start moving in a state of responsibility.
Extract from Overcoming the Perfect Storm by Ana Louceiro Plattner